Full Moon in Gemini

Maybe one of the reasons why I started this blog, way back when, was so that I would actually "get" the cyclical nature of well.. nature!  It's taken me awhile, but I'm starting to catch on!

Tonight the Full Moon is in Gemini.  I wrote about this last year.  http://pixiedusthealing.blogspot.ca/2011/12/full-moon-in-germini-lunar-eclipse.html 

Although last year's full moon was on Dec. 10th, the rest of the information applies.  The New Moon this phase was in Sagittarius and just like last year's Full Gemini moon, this one too is a Lunar Eclipse.

So it's about communication.  If you, like me, are working on Capitalizing Flow, http://pixiedusthealing.blogspot.ca/2012/11/capitalize-flow.html this focused energy on communication may be just want you need to let others know where you're heading. Or maybe, just maybe, it will help you communicate with self. Hmm...

Perhaps the full moon energy that encourages us to slow down and reflect a bit is really suggesting we look at the reflection in the mirror and ask it where we really want to be headed.  Maybe it's time to communicate with that Inner Child and see what dreams and aspirations we might have tossed aside a bit as we got caught up in the flow of others, or were floating adrift a bit.

Maybe nature keeps repeating the cycle as an opportunity for us to jump on board and if we miss it one time we have the assurance the opportunity will come back again, and again, and again.

So here's to personal communication, communication with your inner self, your higher self, you inner child or "all of the above".

If you want more information on the full moon, go back and read last year's post.  I highlighted some Bach Flower remedies I think may apply to this particular energy.  I believe they still apply this year. http://pixiedusthealing.blogspot.ca/2011/12/full-moon-in-germini-lunar-eclipse.html

I guess when patterns are repeated, like the Full Moon cycles, it's an opportunity for change and improvement as well.  So.. this year, I actually spelled "Gemini" right!  Maybe that will enhance my communication with others as well!

Cheers to the reflection you see in the mirror!

Capitalize "flow"

We talk a lot about the ease of "going with the flow".  There are lots of self-help books written about accepting, instead of fighting, situations.  We have popular phrases like "let go and let be", "ride the wave", and "it is what it is". I think the point of all that, is that life doesn't have to be difficult and sometimes we fight against things in a waste of energy. Some people try to white water raft through life taking a very challenging course, continuously trying to direct their path and steer around the rocks and obstacles.  If your life is exactly what you want it to be and you feel  fulfilled yet challenged, certain that you're on the right course, secure in your direction and happy with your speed of progression- congratulations! Pat yourself on the back, shut down the computer and go have a coffee!  If however, going with the flow might possibly have left you feeling a bit "adrift"- read on.

Jan Spiller in, "Astrology for the Soul", talks about "going with the flow" in reference to North Node in Leo people.  She suggests there is a difference between Flow with a capital "f" and flow. I read that a few times and didn't really "get it" until the other day the light bulb came on for me.

I think what Spiller is suggesting is that sometimes we don't personalize our sense of flow.  We go along for the ride uncaring where this bus is headed. Or perhaps thinking we have no control. We use "letting go and letting be" and "going with the flow" as an excuse to prevent us from picking a direction for our lives and deciding what it is we personally want.  It's easier to follow the flow that someone else has created,so we convince ourselves that we're in the right place and we're happy enough with life. It is certainly an easier ride than trying to swim upstream. 

But what if you're caught in the flow? What if you look around you and this is not exactly the scenery you wanted.  Maybe you don't really feel that good about the people you are swimming with, the job you're in, the group you're part of, the way you're living when you dig deep down and can be honest with yourself. There might not be anything dramatically wrong with your life, but just something a bit missing... that's being adrift.

The way to stop drifting in circles in not necessarily to install an outboard motor in your raft and head upstream. I think that might be going backward.  But maybe it's time to pick your flow and subtly adjust direction.  It's about picking a direction.  It's about finding your personal Flow. You don't need to pull other people into your Flow. Neither do you need to get caught up in the Flow of others.  There is lots of room in the river for everyone to pick their own way.

Capitalizing Flow  means you use the ease of the universe and the gifts that are offered to you to get you where you want to go.  But you aren't that inactive observer that drifts around in circles watching whatever comes up.  You set your sights on something, whatever makes you feel happy and good and right.  You actively look for what it is your want and once you see it, you set the course. Then you let go and enjoy the ride, confident that you're heading where you want to go. You might still meet up with rocks and logs, maybe you run a-ground on an island or two, but that doesn't mean you loose site of where you want to be going.  It means you keep steering.

It can be learned behavior to go with the flow instead of your Flow. That's what we learn when we give our toys away and decide we don't really need them anyway- no big deal.  We get rewarded for going with the flow and not ""rocking the boat".  (I'm not sure where all these nautical terms come from!!) We become good at avoiding conflict because it's easier, more peaceful.  We become observers not active participants and eventually we find ourselves adrift, not sure how we really got here and with no idea where we are going. But it's fairly warm and sunny, it's a smooth ride, maybe it's okay.... Hmm...

If you're ready to capitalize Flow, there are a few Bach Flower essences that might help you get there.  The most obvious ones are Agrimony and Wild Rose.

Agrimony types have learned to be observers and they are great at it.  They avoid conflict at all costs because they feel very uncomfortable there. I've written a lot about Agrimony. If you type "Agrimony" into the search box, you'll get them all but  http://pixiedusthealing.blogspot.ca/2011/02/foods-for-throat-chakra.html  is rather in keeping with the candy cane season. Agrimony types would much rather switch than fight and they are okay to follow someone else's direction or lead if it means the ride can be smooth. On the surface they are pretty happy people.  Often they are the jokers in the group, always ready with a friendly smile and a good joke to turn the conversation to pleasant non-confrontational, happy topics. They can even seem to be leaders, as they lead everyone away from conflict towards harmony and the staus quo. But there is a restlessness to Agrimony types if they really really look inside. Some Agrimony types don't sleep well because in the "dead of night" they are plagued by the frustration of always being the observer, always giving up their toys, always going along with the flow.  They often have no idea what they would even want to change they have so lost their own Flow. I think North Node in Leo people might really resonate with Agrimony. A few drops of Agrimony over the course of time can help you find your capital Flow. It can help you dig deep down to discover what it is that makes you excited, challenged, happy, and on course.  It might help you find that Inner Child that really wants to let loose. 

It is not easy to capitalize Flow. It is easy once you find your Flow, but getting out of the general flow into your personal Flow can be a challenge. Once you've accepted the idea that you aren't in Flow, you might need some Wild Rose to motivate you to steer your course a little different.  http://pixiedusthealing.blogspot.ca/2011/01/long-stem-roses-wild-rose-ambition-to.html Wild Rose might be the essence for you if you're able to convince yourself that although things aren't ideal, they are okay. You are resigned to flow and unmotivated to accept the effort to find your personal Flow. It isn't a sense of depression so much as a sense of resignation that signifies a Wild Rose state.  If a piece of you, most likely that little kid in you, is nudging you to find your Flow, find your passion, make a change, Wild Rose might help you accept the challenge.  Wild Rose can help you accept responsibility for making the change to finding personal Flow. Wild Rose can help you realize that you do have the ability, and responsibility, to set your course.

Never mind "gone fishin", I'm "gone rafting"- all by myself!

Red Lights on Black Friday

So tomorrow is Black Friday in the United States.  It would be hard to miss that fact given the advertisements and marketing around this shopping event.  In fact, for the first time ever, Black Friday seems to have swept into Canada and we are apparently having a "Black Friday" as well, even though it isn't a holiday, we celebrated Thanksgiving a month ago, and Christmas is still a month away!

I wrote about Black Friday last year. http://pixiedusthealing.blogspot.ca/2011/11/black-friday-mysterious-potential.html I re-read that post and think I probably need a few of the Bach Flowers I mentioned now that this black fever is spreading northward!! I think Canadians in general might benefit from a few of the essences.

Make no mistake. I can be very easily distracted.  Buzzes, pings, chirpy sounds and ,heaven forbid, flashing red lights and my focus is gone from the task at hand.  So it was hard to work today.  My Blackberry, delivers all these distractions all at once. And today, it was going off like crazy.

I like technology. http://pixiedusthealing.blogspot.ca/2011/10/mindful-use-vs-shutting-down.html   I'm pretty affectionately attached to my electronic device.  It makes life freer for me.  I get a lot of good news from this little critter.  I've received great work contracts through incoming messages. I get newsy, funny and inspirational messages from friends. I keep in touch with clients, and on occasion I've maintained a life-line to family members from this device.  I've even found teenagers from the deep dark depths of a mall this way- otherwise I'd still be looking for them!  But today I got hammered with telemarketing through my device.  It would seem every corporation that I have even been a part of, shopped at, looked at, browsed through, or thought about, sent me a message today on how I could capitalize on a Black Friday "deal".  Seriously????

I wrote in the previous year's post about the significance of the color black. But today, I realize that perhaps coincidentally, my blackberry is actually red. And the little light that flashes on it, distracting my attention and calling me like a beckon is definately red. That got me thinking.... (I warned you I was easily distracted).

What I got thinking about, is that Black Friday puts retailers and corporations in the black.  And perhaps they do that by encouraging me to go into the red? Red is a great color, just not really welcomed on a personal financial spreadsheet. Hmm....

Red resonates with the root chakra. This chakra is focused on safety and survival. http://pixiedusthealing.blogspot.ca/2010/11/chakra-foods.html When this chakra is balanced we feel strongly grounded, secure in the knowledge that we are taken care of, part of a group, strong enough to survive and thrive. We know we have the basics we need and from this perspective we can reach up to higher levels of thought and purpose. When the Root Chakra is unbalanced we can feel overly concerned about materialistic things.  We can get caught up in the fears of lack and the frenzy of a "great deal".

From my distracted mind it occurs to me that my survival is probably not based on having the latest and greatest technological device, the newest gadget, the most fashionable clothes, the latest bestseller, or the "perfect deal". Perhaps I would be better off ignoring some of those incoming marketing suggestions.  Maybe I should get my fingers away from the surf board of key strokes and put my feel in a pair of red sneakers and go for a nice long walk instead.

That might not be in the "spirit " of Black Friday from a retail point of view.  But from my point of view I think it just might keep me secure under a black cloak of protection while the red lights flash away without me.

This all may be a moot point on Black Friday anyway.  Spaceweather.com reports a high probability of geomagnetic storms on November 23rd. http://spaceweather.com/  That could just knock out some of those electronic devices.  And with everyone using credit, debit machines and computer links, there's a good chance it could come crashing down anyway.  So I'll post this message the night before Black Friday. Tomorrow I will "walk away" from all marketing gimicks and "deals".

May your finances be in the black, your shoes red, your cookies be ginger, and your heart light!

Animal Signs: Reindeer

Judging by the amount of hits my post last year on Rudolph the Reindeer has been getting lately, http://pixiedusthealing.blogspot.ca/2011/12/reindeer-bullies-bach-flowers-for.html  it seems as though a lot of people are thinking about reindeer. I guess it is the season. Or at least getting close.

When a lot of people become focused on the same thing I think "the thing" is worth examining a bit. So I decided it would be a good day to look at the spirit of Reindeer as an animal sign that might be providing us humans with some welcome direction.

It would seem some flexibility is required here.  Reindeer wasn't exactly listed in my Animal Spirit Guide books. But Caribou are. And if I saw anything like the critter  in today's picture, at this time of year, I would call her a Reindeer. I hope that wouldn't be insulting to the Caribou- I mean it as a term of endearment and respect of the season. And I think they probably share pretty similar Spirit.

As is often the case, when an Animal Spirit shows up in your life, the significance can still be somewhat open to your perspective and interpretation.  In Steven Farmer's Animal Spirit Guides, there seem to be five somewhat different messages that may apply depending on your situation.

1. Farmer writes that a reindeer (well okay, Caribou) showing up "may indicate it's time for you to make a decision and act with resolve." He suggests you consider it a symbol to make the decision, stick with it, and take appropriate action. Hmm...

That's pretty good advice "when the shift hits the fan" I think  http://pixiedusthealing.blogspot.ca/2012/11/when-shift-hits-fan.html  It might be interesting to note that in the Caribou clan, unlike reindeer actually, both males and females have antlers.  There obviously (if you are a Caribou/Reindeer) are other ways to distinguish male and female! but it's not by looking at their heads. As the shift occurs and we embrace and become connected to the feminine aspect of being human, we might still need to pay attention to our masculine side as well. It isn't a competition, it's a balance to be obtained.   http://pixiedusthealing.blogspot.ca/2012/03/energetic-tug-of-war.html  And if you're going to make a decision, stay with it, and take action, I believe you might want to tap into your masculine side a bit. 

2. Farmer also writes the appearance of reindeer/caribou may indicate "something is bugging you, and you need to address whatever it is and either try and change, it, get away from it, or surrender to it. " Perhaps that's what you need to make the decision about. Seems like  Reindeer energy is about not maintaining status quo, but about enabling change to happen. That means facing up to your negative side, or the negative things in your life so that shifts can occur. It's not about ignoring them, sugar coating them, or pretending they don't exist. It's about facing them and creating change.

3. Steven Farmer suggests when a Caribou shows up it means; "There is solidarity and camaraderie among the people you know and trust, which is something your soul is yearning for at this time, so indulge yourself and seek out these folks. "  This is a time to focus on and surround yourself with those people that make you feel good and shift away from people and situations that don't match with where and who you want to be.  Hmm...

4. According to Farmer, the Caribou may indicate "the long emotional and spiritual trek you've been on is about to conclude.".  He goes on to write that "once it does you'll reap the rewards, benefits and pleasures of having done it. "  More reinforcement to stick with your path and keep moving forward secure in the belief that the shift is for positive gain even if slightly uncomfortable along the way. 

5. Finally, the message from Caribou Spirit may be, "although your journey may seem rather lengthy, as long as you seek the support you need, you will succeed."  Caribou are herd animals.  Santa has a team of reindeer and even though Rudolph may be shining up there in front, there is a whole team following behind her pulling that sleigh full of gifts.  Rudolph doesn't "go it alone". Find your herd and don't be afraid to get other people to pull their weight too. 

If you need a little help pulling the Reindeer/Caribou signs into your life, the Bach remedy combination that could help might include  Agrimony, Scleranthus, Cerato, Water Violet and Gentian. 

I'd recommend Agrimony so you could come out behind that mask you're putting up to pretend everything is okay.  A few drops of Agrimony might help you face that "yucky" situation that really is bugging you when you're honest with yourself.

Once you're facing the issue head on, a few drops of Scleranthus might help you pick a direction and go with it. If you have no idea how to proceed ,Wild Oat might be more helpful, but I have an idea "when the shift hits the fan", if you're honest, you'll see two directions.  Pick one.

Once you've picked the direction, Cerato can help you trust yourself, your decision, and your inner knowing in order to follow through and stick to the plan when those other reindeer from the other side of the river are trying to pull you over and across thin ice.

Once you've made your decision, picked your direction and want to stick to it, you might find out you could use a few more members on your team.  That sleigh can be pretty heavy even if it's full of great things.  Water Violet can help you reach out to others, accepting help and reinforcement.

Finally, the trek through the cosmos can get kind of dark by times even when you know you're heading towards the light.  A few drops of Gentian might help restore your conviction that the reindeer really do bring the message that the journey is about to end with positive results.

So.. if you think your hear the thunder of hooves behind you these days, consider that it just might be a team of Caribou disguised as Reindeer, or Reindeer disguised as Caribou - it doesn't really matter.  They are likely pulling a whole sleigh of wonderful gifts right to you. Make way for the wonder.

And, in the meantime, if you could use the Reindeer Remedy of Agrimony, Scleranthus, Cerato, Water Violet, and Gentian, go to my website www.pixiedusthealing.com  It's had some shifting as well and has a new look.  Send me a message and indicate you'd like a Reindeer Remedy and I'll send it ahead of the herd. 

Enjoy the Spirit!

When the Shift hits the Fan

I was having a discussion with a client this week.  We were talking about how extreme situations and emotions seem to be these days.  It seems as those everyone, everywhere, is having a lot of "stuff" presented to them that requires them to act, feel and make decisions- some of them quite uncomfortable.  My client said she thought "the shift has hit the fan".  I love that phrase.  It seems to completely sum things up for me.

A lot of people and organizations been talking about "the shift", or "a change" for quite awhile.  Whether you believe things are changing because of increased consciousness, universal laws, end of the Mayan calender, enlightenment, global economy, political unrest, climate change, or polar shifting, we all seem to agree a change is present or perhaps on the horizon. For many, with December 2012 fast approaching, it seems we may be closer and closer to some pretty big change. Maybe to facilitate that change, or because of that change, we are being called to address what's in front of us in a more intense way. No more "fooling around" folks.

I've had some personal "shift hit the fan" in the past couple of weeks. It doesn't seem as though it's so much about changing outcomes, as much as it is about changing my internal being and response to situations. I think that's perhaps what the shift is about. We look to changing external circumstances as evidence of change or "a Shift".  We say things have "turned around for us" when more money comes in, we get the job we want, the new house or car we desired, or we are released from pain, disease, responsibilities, or angst. We measure change by what's outside of us.  And if we don't see that evidence of change we decide the Shift hasn't happened yet. Maybe we are using the wrong measuring stick.

I believe when you see a repetitive pattern it's important to examine that pattern. It's the Chestnut Bud approach to life. http://pixiedusthealing.blogspot.ca/2012/07/applying-lessons-learned.html Instead of reacting the same way to what seems to seem to be the same situation, you act differently, having learned from the mistakes of the past.  It's your reaction that's important, not the external circumstances.

It would seem if you don't take a look at your internal mapping, the speed of the fan is increased and you may start to feel pretty overwhelmed by the force of the wind and the amount of debris coming towards you once the "Shift hits". That's opportunity.

I think the opportunity is not to resolve the situation differently. I don't think it's about finding different solutions, unique fixes, or alternative methods. I think the opportunity to to feel the situation different and therefore react differently, unattached to outcomes and resolutions.

In my opinion, if the same stuff keeps coming at you, and now the speed and intensity is ramped up, the opportunity is there for internal shifting. This won't necessarily be a comfortable feeling. In fact, if you're feeling comfortable, I don't think you're shifting.

If, for instance, you've always resolved conflict by trying to avoid or deny it at all costs you might benefit from the Bach Flower essence Agrimony http://pixiedusthealing.blogspot.ca/2011/11/new-beginning-facing-conflict.html as you  find "the Shift that hits the fan" right now is a whole lot of messy conflict.

If you try to come up with a plan that resolves the present conflict in a better way for all, involves restructuring for all involved parties, new methods of interacting, more attention to the feelings of others, and just different ways of resolving the issues, you may  find the speed of the fan increases as you try these problem solving methods.  But... that could be just me. Hmm...

Instead, this may be an opportunity to consider how you feel and react to conflict, and a chance to react differently. Stop thinking about the needs of others and focus on your own needs maybe. Stop trying to resolve it comfortably for all and just walk way instead. Change your pattern. Change your reactions. Change your feelings.  Don't expect a different outcome. That's only a measurement of external change

 Expect different feelings. That's the measurement of internal change. Perhaps that's the Shift we're supposed to take.

So when "the Shift hits the fan", maybe it isn't about controlling the fan at all.  Maybe it isn't about shutting it off, unplugging it, changing it's direction, or setting up a bigger fan in the opposite direction.  Maybe it's about personally shifting your position, just ever so slightly, to one side or the other, up or down. Let the fan blow all it wants.  You just won't feel it in the same way. 

Fair winds ahead!

Strength for Change



Photo courtesy of Liz Corbett www.circleofinnerwidsom.ca




It seems to me that Oak trees are making their presence known in a big way.  I wrote about Knobbley the Oak tree a few weeks ago. http://pixiedusthealing.blogspot.ca/2012/10/bach-flower-oak-for-feeling-hollow.html 

Then, a few days ago, a friend sent me information on yet another amazing Oak tree story.  This tree is the Ghirardi Compton Oak.  It's 56 feet tall, has a canopy over 100 feet wide, and is 135 inches around.  It has been growing in the same place for over a hundred years. 

But times change and the people of Compton embarked on a road widening project. The project would enhance the community, but threatened the oak tree that was growing in the way of progress. Here's where the story gets great.  Rather than cut down a sacred part of their community, they took on a month long project to safely relocate a 518, 000 pound tree!  You can watch the process at http://www.youtube.com/watch_popup?v=BFTj0hM3DHM
It's worth watching in my opinion.  I found it really quite moving.  It seems as though the Oak is waving as it goes on it's journey safe and secure in the knowledge that a lot of time, effort, and love is being put into this change.

I believe there is change going on for everyone right now. And change isn't always very comfortable.  It can't be easy to have your space invaded, your roots dug up and exposed as you find yourself being dragged away from where you've called home for over a hundred years. And even though you may find yourself not that far away from where you began, surely the view is different. 

It occurred to me as I watched the video that one of the reasons it was even possible to relocate this Oak was because the Oak tree grows massive roots but they aren't anchored that deep.  This tree is more about spreading itself out on the surface, searching for new water and soil sources. 

The Bach essence Oak, is helpful when you are feeling hollow at the core.  It's useful when you have spread your roots and branches so far, you've sort of lost yourself in the centre.  But the positive attribute of Oak is a very solid, strong person. Oak people are often the mainstay of their family or working group, just like Knobbley and the Compton Oak are a central focus for of their communities. Oak people possess enormous endurance, persistence, patience and energy. 

That's the kind of inner strength you need when under going change. I hope someone gave the Oak tree a bit of Walnut before, during and after the move. Even strong people with solid cores could benefit from some Walnut during these times of change. Walnut provides some protection from outside influences and helps us adapt to changing ideas, atmospheres, and world views. Hmm...

So, some Oak to maintain your inner strength, some Walnut for protection from change and you might be able to make the journey smoothly.  But...  I think I would want to add some Water Violet to that mix.

Strong people (and trees) that are used to doing things for themselves and everyone around them for hundreds of years just might get a little proud.  I guess if you've seen all those changes, weathered all those storms, and are just a little tired of all the shifting, you might start to feel a little anti-social.  Maybe during changing atmospheres you'd rather withdraw, cope on your own, resist any outside help.

That Comptom Oak tree seems to be waving as it's carried along. It has a lot of help.  It' has people watering it's roots, it's being both pushed and pulled, it's got people directing the process, looking out for branches and bumps along the road.

So, I'd want to add some Water Violet to the "Strength for Change" mixture. It helps you allow others to help along the way. It encourages you to lean on others that have leaned on you by times.  Water Violet helps you create warmer relationships that encourage "give and take" during tough changing times.

It isn't always right to leave things exactly the way they have always been I don't think.  Change is often good, great even.  It's a natural part of growth and evolution. And it often happens whether you like it or not!  So if you're having difficulty with the change maybe you could use a little help along the way.

If you'd like a bottle of "Strength for Change" Bach flowers, visit my website www.pixiedusthealing.com  or send me an email heather@pixiedusthealing.com .  It's going to be part of my changing website and a Fall Special.  You can get a copy of Sweet Shack & Bach Bar, and a bottle of "Strength for Change" for $25.00 this month. That's my contribution to the change effort.

"The only constant is change".

Ho'oponopono

Wise Woman recommended a dose of Ho'oponapano the other day.  I'm always up for trying something new so I asked where I could get some of this stuff and how did I take it.  Turns out to not be that easy. Or maybe it turns out to be easier than that, depending on your perspective.  Here's the explanation from the words of Dr. Ihaleakala Hew  via Wise Woman.

" Ho'oponopono is really very simple. For the ancient Hawaiians, all problems begin as thought. But having a thought is not the problem. So what's the problem? The problem is that all our thoughts are imbued with painful memories, memories of persons, places, or things. The intellect working alone can't solve these problems, because the intellect only manages. Managing things is no way to solve problems.  You want to let them go! When you do Ho'oponopono, what happens is that the Divinity takes the painful thought and neutralizes or purifies it. You don't purify the person, place, or thing. You neutralize the energy you associate with that person, place, or thing. So the first stage of Ho'oponopono is the purification of that energy. Now something wonderful happens. Not only does that energy get neutralized; it also gets released, so there's a brand new slate. Buddhists call it the Void. The final step is that you allow the Divinity to come in and fill the void with light. To do Ho'oponopono, you don't have to know what the problem or error is.  All you have to do is notice any problem you are experiencing physically, mentally, emotionally, whatever. Once you notice, your responsibility is to immediately begin to clean, to say, "I'm sorry. Please forgive me." 

Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Lew 

So I guess the message is that we are creating our own problems and trying to micromanage ourselves.  We try to shuffle our same, tired old thoughts around into boxes and issues and "to do" lists. We make our own problems. Sometimes just by thinking too much.  It seems we have created so many management positions we can no longer get the work done.

It would seem when you practice Ho'oponopono, you downsize the upper management structure a bit.  You stop having so many meetings.  You don't worry so much about strategies, approaches, and restructuring to solve your problems.  You quit!  You stop thinking and creating problems and just allow. You live in the moment.

You stop thinking and remembering and reviewing what you did in the past as a measurement for how to handle the future. You  find the magic moment of right now.  In that magic moment  there are no memories, no worries for the future, just this moment and what's the problem with that! 

Is this easier said than done? That was my first reaction to Ho'oponopona.  But that's because I was thinking that maybe I had tried that before. I was thinking my way into a problem because I had past attachments and memories. Too much intellect, not enough being. And maybe not enough allowing. Perhaps if we don't worry about the management structure we can just enjoy the process. 

Aloha!

The Boss of Me

So at 2am this morning, daylight savings time is officially over for the year and time, as we agree on it, is moved back one hour. We moved it ahead in March and I wrote about the whole notion then too http://pixiedusthealing.blogspot.ca/2012/03/time-adjustments.html

Usually I'm pretty happy about this "fall back" concept of time.  I really like my sleep and for years I have bought in to this notion that miraculously I got an extra hour of sleep last night.  What was I thinking!! I guess something in me has changed, because this year I just can't buy into that at all and I can't believe I ever did!

First of all, the idea of this "changing time" was always explained, at least in the grade school I went to, as a way to help farmers.  Supposedly this would give them more daylight to work in. Seriously??  In the early 1900's, before the days of automated feeding and milking, I think you would have been pretty hard pressed to find a successful farmer that relied on an alarm clock to tell him when to get to work in the morning! I don't want to get into the notion of a conspiracy theory, but I just can't any longer believe that was the real reason.  I wonder if anyone gave the rooster an alarm clock, and if so, did someone sneak out at 2am and switch it back an hour?

In the days leading up to this time switch this year, I've read media accounts of how great this weekend is for many people.  Apparently the majority of North Americans are sleep deprived and to have this extra hour is quite a boost. Seriously??? You relied on the notion of time of day to "allow" you to sleep longer?

I wrote a Children's Story called "The Boss of Me".  The concept is that sometimes you have a lot more choice and control than you might think. Today I'm thinking adults can maybe apply that concept as well.

Here's the thing.  Someone else might tell you what time you need to be at work.  But you can choose what time you get up in the morning.  You are the boss of you!  Someone else might tell you to switch your clock back an hour but you can choose what you  want to do with that "extra" hour and whether or not you believe you've gained anything in the first place. You are the boss of you!

In my opinion, if you're sleep deprived, it has much less to do with what the clock says, as it has to do with what you are doing with your "time".  You might have to have an email account, but you can choose when you check your messages and respond back.  You only have so many hours in the day (according to our concept of time which is suspicious in the first place), but you do get to choose what all you want to fit in, and cut out of, that time. You are the boss of you!

If you're having difficulty believing in your ability to choose, the Bach Flower essence Cerato might help.  It is for people that don't trust their own judgement and decision making. It could be for farmers that are waiting for someone else to tell them when to get up in the morning and when to shut down at night. If you find yourself seeking advice from others rather than trusting your own gut feelings- this Bach is for you.

If you believe deep down you know what is, and isn't, right for you but you're putting on a mask and pretending it's okay, Agrimony might be the Bach Flower essence for you. It's for farmers that know they would be better off going to bed  and getting up earlier but they "go with the flow" of what everyone else is doing rather than set off an argument.

If you think you should be, and could be, the boss of you, but don't risk taking on that challenge for fear of failure, Larch might be the Bach Flower for you. It's for farmers that know deep down they are tuned in to and in sync with the cycles of nature but are afraid to follow their intuition in case they sleep in!

If you've refused to change your clocks and have started a blog about destroying Daylight Savings and asked people to sign a petition, Vervain might be the Bach Flower for you. Being the boss of you doesn't mean you become the boss of everyone- just you.  Vervain types can get a little over-enthusiastic in their efforts to boss everyone and a few drops of the essence can help them be more tolerant of how others act. If your irritation over the whole "time change thing" has kept you awake through that extra hour- try some Vervain.

In my opinion, we often give up our control because of fear. Sometimes it isn't easy being the boss of me. This fear of losing, or letting go of, control may be an indication for the Bach Flower essence Cherry Plum.  http://pixiedusthealing.blogspot.ca/2011/10/cherry-plum-when-control-is-world-view.html Cherry Plum can help you think and act rationally in your position as Boss of Me.

"The Boss of Me" hasn't yet seen the light of publishing yet. Maybe I'll spent that extra hour today working on that.  Maybe it's all about timing...